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As humans it is common for us to develop a liking for a particular person. However the problem arises when we develop a disliking to another because of one’s prejudice/beliefs.
I have not particularly been discriminated against or subjected to racism per say but I have seen it up close happening with other people. And I strongly object to it.
Have you ever been bullied, or teased for something or the other? You are not alone; according to 'UNESCO Institute of Statistics', one third of the world's youth is bullied.
Choose your friends wisely
As the motivational speaker Jim Rohn have famously said that you are represented by the 5 people you surround yourself with.
It is important that you pick and choose each of them with great care. Having even one supportive friend who believes in you is something worth rejecting 10 random people who moderately like you.
Read this to know how to filter people in your life.
What goes on in the offender’s mind?
Understand this that the person who is the source of your inconvenience is also facing issues related to their own self image and insecurities revolving around, for the most part.
Once I overheard a conversation in my school between the principal and the parents of a boy who was caught while bullying his fellow students. It gave me an insight as to why the boy was bullying others, it was because his family was going through a rough time and his way of dealing with the pent up anger he was lashing out on other students.
What can you do?
For the most part it is advisable for you to remove yourself from a negative situation like this one.
If for any reason at all you can’t do that and are forced to face a situation like this, try and accept the fact that someone’s opinion of you doesn’t define you. They cannot belittle you if you laugh it off or ignore it.
Although, in certain scenarios there will be authorities present who will be able to help you draw strong and clear boundaries or even enforce consequential punishment to the offender.
Of course the most optimum way for you to tackle this problem is by removing yourself from the situation in my opinion.
You have the right to safeguard yourself
Please note that there are rules and regulations which were setup by the authorities to protect you. If you feel something is bothering you beyond your capacity to handle it, please talk to someone about it. They may be able to guide you better as they will hopefully give you a neutral perspective. If you feel you cannot talk to anyone in your circle in a candid manner, try the number given below, this has been verified as a reliable source as on 12th December’21.
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How can you help others
We may not realize but we can also be on the opposite side of this equation, which means we may be the source of racism/discrimination for others, the very same issue we face ourselves.
Ask these questions to know if you are unknowingly projecting your views/opinions on others:
- Have I been calling people by names which are linked to specific attributes?
- Do I tease people based on how they look?
- Did anyone feel uncomfortable expressing themselves in front of me?
- Ask this from your friends Is there anything I do which bothers you mentally?
Know this
Tyrion Lannister said to John Snow in The Game of thrones.
"Let me give you some advice, bastard. Never forget what you are, the rest of the world will not. Wear it like armour and it can never be used to hurt you."
If someone truly values you they will take your feelings into consideration. They will care how their behavior/comments affect you. And if they don’t, do you really want them to be in your circle?
Conclusion
You can choose to let the comments/judgments of others affect you or not. It is up to you to decide who gets to affect you and in what ways. I know it is hard especially if they are the ones closest to your heart, but tell me this, would you value your well being more or the feelings of those who don’t pay much attention to how you feel.
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