Where is Home?
I have always been able to get comfortable in new surroundings quickly.When I went for the गृह प्रवेश of one of my father’s friends, I (an 8-year old) ended up staying there for a whole night. I had no qualms about going to different places if I got instant gratification.As a child, I was pretty sure that my home was where my family lived, where I grew up sneaking around, and where I received love, food, security, and other kind of things. Here is home.But as I grew older, m…
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2024: The Year of Letting Go!
Letting go used to be a foreign concept for me, until I realised—the baggage I was carrying became too heavy and started breaking me bit by bit.If you are someone who doesn’t get bothered by things, people, or life in general, then you must be a pro at letting go. You may not gain anything from reading this blog, but you may be able to help others by commenting any insights you might have about the art of letting go.However, if you are someone like me (who is afraid of letti…
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Do You Have the Luxury of Saying No?
‘NO,’ probably the word (or sign) modern parenting styles advise you not to introduce to your newborn child. As I don’t understand the reasons behind this theory nor do I have the power to implement this method, my 10-month old nephew has learned how to say no.I love kids for their no-fudge given attitude, among other things; while I may find myself or other fellow adults being cautious of ruffing some feathers, kids freely refuse to deal with people they don’t wish to inter…
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How to Live Alone Happily: Part 2
Challenges of Living AloneYou will inevitably have to face several challenges when you venture out into the “Real World” which is why it is better you prepare in advance to conquer them. In this blog post, you will be presented with information collected after more than 3 years of living on your own.If you think of these challenges as tests/exams in your school (in a more practical sense) you may be able to glide through them with ease. All of the following mentioned obstacl…
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How to Live Alone Happily: Part 1
The Planning StageAre you planning to live alone? Whether you are moving to a new city or somewhere familiar, establishing a new life away from your childhood home is quite difficult. Whatever the reason may be for your move, you should prepare yourself for the upcoming challenges.Having moved out in 2016, I have a few insights that will definitely help you learn how to live alone happily and make your experience much smoother.Have you traveled alone before?Don’t worry, you …
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Who decides the beauty standards?!
For as long as I can remember, I was called out for having a big foot, a fat nose, a small ass, and what not!Obviously, I got conscious of my looks.A 10-year-old Ashmita would spend a lot of time in the shower perfecting her smile to "look" presentable.By the time I reached the fifth standard, it had become extremely important for me to improve myself, actually, it was more about improving my appearance. It became a base mindset to scrutinize images of myself and r…
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A Guide: How to stay fit without working out
Do you feel like working out is not for you? You get bored easily and feel lazy in the mornings.P.S. Oh my god the gym fee, I’d rather eat less food.Don’t worry you don’t necessarily have to do any "EXCERCISE" in order to stay fit.First, let’s define what being fit means, generally (I think) it means that you can easily do your day-to-day activities without feeling exhausted at the end of the day, you don’t fall sick that often, and your immunity system doesn’t suc…
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Modern Loneliness
Today, we have the technology and with it—the luxury to reach out to our loved ones with just a click.The irony is even with the ease of reaching out, it is actually so difficult to have a conversation and connect with people. I find the confines of this modern structure for socializing truly bizarre—I can see and know what you’ve been up to and what is going on in your life (well mostly, whichever part of yourself you choose to share) but I cannot seem to find a way to conn…
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How to increase your weight?
Maintaining a healthy weight and BMI is the first parameter by which you are judged. Even when you go for certain examinations your BMI is one parameter they assess you on.Have you been working yourself up for being called skinny all the time? Get to know what people facing the same issue go through.Myths and common things we hear almost daily around this topicEating a lot is the only way you will gain any weight.Why are you starving yourself, being skinny doesn’t make you l…
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How to deal with racism/discrimination?
As humans it is common for us to develop a liking for a particular person. However the problem arises when we develop a disliking to another because of one’s prejudice/beliefs. I have not particularly been discriminated against or subjected to racism per say but I have seen it up close happening with other people. And I strongly object to it. Have you ever been bullied, or teased for something or the other? You are not alone; according to 'UNESCO Insti…
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I choose to believe
I believeI choose to believe;In people,For there is a chance. They might outshine themselvesFundamentally we all are similar if not sameWe breathe the same air, we want the same things at the end of the day and do the same things.I still choose to believeBecause every single one of us differs from the otherIn ways not obvious,The difference there lies in the subtletiesOf how they change their demeanor when on guard,How their faces have been carved by the life changing incide…
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How I wish I were not a woman
It took me about 22 years to accept the fact that I am a woman and that need not change for me to have a better quality of life.For so long I wished with every fiber in my being to not be a woman in this place/time.Table of Contents A Little BackgroundI was born in Agra, Uttar Pradesh in 1998 to a middle class household where my father worked hard to give us a better future and my mother supported him by giving everything she had to offer.Seeing her from the very beginning, I…
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Happy 24th Ashmita
Happy 24th Ashmita. I wish you Great Health and Prosperity.
It’s raining today and I love it. I am proud of you. You have done well. You have been doing your all; yes, your all. I know what you are going to say, I know you; But trust me you have been doing your all!It does not matter whether you feel like you are not doing your best, being at your best. Life isn’t just about that.You are stirring up things; and life will change for you. It will dance for you and you have to d…
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